Going on your first date with your man requires putting some things in place if you do not want to have a bad memory. The preparation starts as soon as you agree to go out on a date with him. You will not want to wait till that day before you start thinking in your head about the clothes, shoes, and jewelry to put on. Having a good sense of dressing will be a plus to you, and please avoid dressing to kill as this would enable your man to maintain decorum. Dressing moderately demonstrates your royalty because you belong to the royal family – the precious daughter of the King of kings. You must have that sense of who you are and where you belong on this important date. I will briefly highlight some of the things that you need to put in place before that day.
The first thing to do when you are preparing for your first date with your man is to commit the precious moment you are going to have together unto the Lord’s hand; it is always good to ask God to go with you and perfect all the arrangements according to His will. I read about a lady whose relationship always ends on the first date with all the men that ever proposed to her. It took her several years to discover what was repelling those brothers away from her. Sisters, you need to commit everything unto the Lord’s hand before you go. We have seen cases of sisters who lost their virginity during their first date, so you must not take chances. Prayer will help you a great deal if you engage yourself in it “commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust in him, and he will help you” (Psalms 37:5).
Your dressing – Your first date will not be the last, so don’t prepare to show him that you have many designer dresses, tops, bags, and panties. Remember, you have to be decent and modest in your outlook. Be as simple as possible in your dressing; the most important thing is the neatness of all you are wearing, don’t wear the clothes you have sweated on that have not been dry cleaned. Don’t put on hilly shoes that you will not be comfortable in. If you are busty, try to get yourself a nice bra that can pack it very well, don’t go on a date with a man with the look of 38 when you are just 26 years old. You need to be innovative and look gorgeous on that day! If you know your breasts are not that big and you want the dress you are putting on to look good on you, then get yourself a padded bra, so the beauty of your cloth can come out. If you are using makeup, be careful of the amount you apply, so the brother will not ask if you missed your table. If you don’t makeup on a typical day, please don’t because of the date; apply it; your simplicity might be one of the reasons why the brother is attracted to you in the first place. Please don’t demoralize him!
Eat from home – I don’t expect you to fast on your first date because one thing that makes it fun is for you to eat together at the eatery or restaurant, not necessarily from the same plate, but eating is part of your date. So if you are fasting, make sure you round up the fast before your meeting time and ensure you eat from home to save yourself from unnecessary hunger. And it would help if you kept a fresh breath, brushing after your meal is not a bad idea.
Your order – Most times when you go for a date, there is the probability of you eating there as I said earlier, and this may warrant you making order of the kind of meal you desire; at this point, I will advise that you place a simple order. I have heard about cases of ladies who ordered food outrageously and ended up being the one to pay when the brother couldn’t afford the cost of the meal. Since you have been advised to eat from home, request something light that will help you to prolong your conversations with your man.
Conversation – Have the best conversation with him, don’t just wine and dine alone. Pay attention to the details of your discussion. Ask questions about his faith, this family background, life goals and aspirations, hobbies, likes and dislikes, his plans for his ideal family, etc. Find out who his mentors are and how they have been influencing him. Ask clarifying questions when you are in doubt about something or want further explanation. Be polite as much as possible when asking or answering such clarifying questions.
Appreciation – Please don’t take the date for granted. Appreciate him for making your day a memorable one. I pray that God will make it such a great moment for you whenever you go out for a date like this in Jesus’ name. Amen.
