Every relationship that will stand the test of time has to be such that the couple must give room for assessment and improvement. You have to know this because there is no marriage made in heaven. Every enviable marriage started here on earth one day. There is no such thing as a man and a woman meeting first in heaven before consummating the marriage here on earth. No! Everything started here on earth; that is, every stage put together to make the marriage work was made workable right here on earth.
Creating room for improvement is very important in every facet of life, especially in marriage. When a woman refuses to learn new things that can bring about a healthy relationship with her children and her husband, there will be a potential problem. In my few years of marriage, the Lord has taught me so many lessons to keep the wine of our union fresh daily. I got so many fantastic ideas of how best to enjoy my marriage from my best friend – the Holy Spirit. John 14:26 says: But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have told you. The Holy Spirit has been my best friend and my teacher; he leads more than any marriage coach in this world. He explains things so that if you follow his direction, you will have no problem. I thank God I discovered this early in my marriage, and I have maintained a good relationship with Him; I see to it that I don’t disconnect from Him because that could be dangerous to me.
To improve your relationship with your spouse or fiance, you will have to set your relationship with Christ right. Showcasing your best in your marriage depends solely on your relationship with God. So if there is anything to improve to have the best of time in your marriage, it will have to be on you developing your friendship with God. Until you decide to partner with the Holy Spirit in your life, you won’t know the best way to go about things in your marriage. The kind of mentorship you will receive from the Holy Spirit can not be found elsewhere. I remember some years back that the Holy Spirit laid it on my heart to ask my husband to assess me and tell me the areas of my life he would want me to improve on. Before then, I had always thought that I was trying my best so that my husband would not see any fault in me; until I was led to ask him, and as the Lord would have it, he pointed out something to me which he said if I could work upon he would appreciate. Did it hurt when I was told the outcome of the assessment? Yes! Does it positively impact my relationship with my husband after making corrections? Yes! Who benefited from the work of my husband’s judgment? Both of “US” That is how much the Holy Spirit can be of help to us when we call upon him to be our friend.
Mothers and sisters, another way you can improve your relationship with your spouse is to be teachable; every man loves to see his wife listening and taking to correction. No man enjoys the company of a woman who thinks she knows it all! A woman who does not give room for learning will not enjoy the good company of her husband constantly.
Paying attention to his dislikes is another area every woman must improve upon. Women often get carried away with so many things and pay little or no attention to their husbands’ complaints. Because of familiarity, we treat all his dislikes as if they don’t exist, whereas we pay much attention to our bosses’ dislikes because we don’t want to lose our job. We make sure it doesn’t repeat itself, but as for our husband’s complaint, we repeat as much as double of what he said he hates hearing or seeing. Personally, it took me several years to unlearn the habit of shouting my husband’s name from afar, even when I could work up the will to discuss things with him. He called my attention to this, yet I ignored it until the Holy Spirit brought it to my notice that I had not obeyed my husband. Then I realized that I had been failing in this area. Today, I think twice now before l shout his name if l have something important to discuss with him because l am wiser. I would instead call him on the phone if I needed help with anything rather than shouting his name around the house.
To sum it up, let me say that a little care for one another can go a long way if one is willing to improve her relationship with her husband. You can decide to help iron your hubby’s clothes on special days if you have not been doing so, or you offer him a glass of water when you notice that he will need it. All these little affections to one’s man can improve your relationship with him. I pray the holy spirit will give you some more suitable ways of improving your relationship with your spouse in Jesus’ name. Amen.
